If you want to record a sustainable success in relationships please understand that love is nothing more than a reification of what is essentially a complex process of social interaction among human actors whose mutually oriented actions create and sustain the associated emotions, feelings and attitudes towards one another and this gives no room for selfish expectations of traditional African one way courtship. We are living in a different world from our parents and that world has little room for flimsy and rather clumsy self celebrations of ladyishness grounded in the belief that a man's love is reflected by the level of their unresented persistence in their pursuance of a woman. That world is a bygone never to return and we all need to realise that. In the new order its the survival of the fittest and its got no room for the light hearted, those who think that they can work up at 10 in the morning and find bread on the table everyday. You either adapt to the new system or you join the bandwagon of losers whose numbers are ever on the increase.
Our society is built on a universal code of TRUST which history has shown to be a very fragile and rather flexible concept. Without Trust life would be a misery and the majority of society's interpersonal failures are a result of the failure to realise this. The greatest risk of life is that the only way to garantee your happiness is to surround yourself with people whose actions and intentions you gullibly trust even in the darkest night.
Without trust do not waste your time trying to find happiness. Besides one of the most liberating freedoms come with the realisation that the Joys of life - like GOD - are not something that is out there to be discovered
but its in here to be explored inside everyone of us. Happiness is not an event or occasion nor action but the result thereof.
One other thing - do not full yourself thinking that behavioural traits can be built overnight. As they say - people are not born but are made. Thus make a deliberate and conscious decision to want to be someone and take the appropreate action that will lead you to where you want to be. Nothing comes on a silver plate but you have to work for everything that comes your way.
Worrying is often a sign of the unconscious registration of confusion hence should always get you thinking. When we worry, are nervous or are uncomfortable its usually because something inside us knows that we are
unprepared for whatever it is that we are attempting to do hence the alarm signal triggered by the parasympathetic system.
Finally - sometimes the best way to hold tight is by letting go. It is a fundamental but rather paradoxical principle of life that black and white are opposite ends of the same shades of light. In fact its not possible to
have white without black and our perception of black is made possible by our conscious awareness of white without which black would be non-existent. However outside the physical world or more specifically in the social cosmos it is not neccessary to be consciously aware of black in order to perceive white because everything is a social construction.
That is why we often "hate" those we "love" and we "love" those we "hate". In the same vain I have realised that it sometimes makes a lot more sense although its against popular norms to let go of those you love the most as a cabalistic sign of enduring love.
Our society is built on a universal code of TRUST which history has shown to be a very fragile and rather flexible concept. Without Trust life would be a misery and the majority of society's interpersonal failures are a result of the failure to realise this. The greatest risk of life is that the only way to garantee your happiness is to surround yourself with people whose actions and intentions you gullibly trust even in the darkest night.
Without trust do not waste your time trying to find happiness. Besides one of the most liberating freedoms come with the realisation that the Joys of life - like GOD - are not something that is out there to be discovered
but its in here to be explored inside everyone of us. Happiness is not an event or occasion nor action but the result thereof.
One other thing - do not full yourself thinking that behavioural traits can be built overnight. As they say - people are not born but are made. Thus make a deliberate and conscious decision to want to be someone and take the appropreate action that will lead you to where you want to be. Nothing comes on a silver plate but you have to work for everything that comes your way.
Worrying is often a sign of the unconscious registration of confusion hence should always get you thinking. When we worry, are nervous or are uncomfortable its usually because something inside us knows that we are
unprepared for whatever it is that we are attempting to do hence the alarm signal triggered by the parasympathetic system.
Finally - sometimes the best way to hold tight is by letting go. It is a fundamental but rather paradoxical principle of life that black and white are opposite ends of the same shades of light. In fact its not possible to
have white without black and our perception of black is made possible by our conscious awareness of white without which black would be non-existent. However outside the physical world or more specifically in the social cosmos it is not neccessary to be consciously aware of black in order to perceive white because everything is a social construction.
That is why we often "hate" those we "love" and we "love" those we "hate". In the same vain I have realised that it sometimes makes a lot more sense although its against popular norms to let go of those you love the most as a cabalistic sign of enduring love.
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